Being a Nobody...

Dr. Navniit Gandhi
Wednesday, November 9, 2016

I am a Nobody. There is no designation I hold; no property I own; there is no glamour or beauty I was born with; there is hardly a success story in the family; and there are no high-profiled connections I can boast of. Parents were simple, who had to struggle to make ends meet; education was ordinary, and attempts at carving a successful career, failed.

Have YOU too ever felt that you are a Nobody? If you are talented, beautiful, an accomplished achiever with lots of fame, or are prosperous in your own way… this question is obviously not meant for you. You would not probably understand the sentiments of a ‘nobody’; just a plain simple ‘nobody’ whom no one cares to know and who has nothing much to show around to others, with pride…

Many of us are average persons, born in simple unassuming families; have an average academic record; marry into modest families, and just about manage to earn a livelihood. We do not have extraordinary oratory, or entertaining or artistic or culinary or any other skill whatsoever. Nobody cares for our opinions… for what we think or believe… for what we do or we don’t do. No one asks for our views on business, religion or politics. We don’t get lot of invites for dinners or other get-togethers… No one thinks that it is important to know us. Of course, once we know that we just do not matter to the vast wide world, one learns to go about living as unobtrusively as one can. One learns to go about simply doing one’s chores; fulfilling one’s duties towards the few family members and friends who make up our world.
And then, sometimes we bump into a famous person; or read a successful person’s interview or attend a lecture by an achiever or meet someone beautiful and glamorous in an event… One wonders then, isn’t it, that how some people seem to be living perfect lives? They have stories of success or wealth to tell, spanning over generations.
Not only their parents, but also their grandparents had carved a niche for themselves. They were, therefore, sent to prestigious schools and Universities; their goals were well-laid out and they always moved about in high-profiled circles… It is not just about living in luxury, but about being known, about holding important positions and about making a difference. The rich, the famous, the beautiful, and the successful or even those with successful parents have their interviews published; are invited as chief guests; and are sought after for lectures, and inaugurations. People want to ‘connect’ with them.

Even if not born into an accomplished family, some people work real hard and become self-made somebody; they recognize their potential early on, and then they strive hard and nurture the same. They are skilled in their moves and choices. Some are fortunate to receive appropriate guidance or suitable mentors at the most opportune times. They sacrifice a lot of pleasures but move consistently towards their target or ambition in life. Of course, amongst them too, there are some who do work very hard to reach their goals and desperately try to become somebody important, but do not succeed.

Well, shedding aside all that tinge of envy and sadness, some of us who are nobodies, however live amused— while looking at the other side. We are happy with the one house we have; the few friends we have and the simple meals we are able to afford. Not being important, famous and highly-placed does not bother us; concerns pertaining to real-estate, bank-balance and diamonds do not bring creases of worries on our foreheads. We may have no visiting-cards, websites, or designations to boast of. Not many may want to connect with us, but life seems to be still simpler and fuller. Not that the accomplished somebodies do not lead fuller lives, but even the nobodies can…

Are you too a happy Nobody? Are you that someone who is not important in the eyes of the world, but someone who, when, looks in the mirror, has a pretty sight and a nod of approval to look at? Someone who has done the important things? Are you a happy Nobody wha has been treating others with dignity, offering smiles, and taking care to not hurt hearts? If you are a caring, sensitive and a helpful soul—you can choose to be happy just knowing that you have lived well. If you have not let down people in a big way, and nor have trampled others underneath your arrogance stemming from affluence and success—you can relax and sit amused. Some of us have just about 2 or 3 relationships that sustain us, and there is no flock wanting to connect with us, but we live amused… Lesser are therefore, the headaches and complications. With no too many real-estate investments and diamonds in the lockers, there are no worries either of distributing wealth or of squabbles over it. Even if the looks are ordinary, there is not much fear of losing the glamour and appeal. Nothing weighs then on the mind, like an obsession.

Finally, it is all about perception. Even a nobody can be a true somebody and a somebody can actually be just a nobody at all.
How have you chosen to live?

If you are a nobody, and still happy, and you know it, clap your hands...

Dr. Navniit Gandhi is an academic, an author, counsellor/trainer and a freelance writer/columnist. She writes extensively for several newspapers, magazines, web-portals and academic publications and has authored six Books till date. Raindrops — a collection of usual and unusual short love stories— published and released in Feb 2018 is her latest literary endeavor.
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Posted on Saturday, November 26, 2016

Thought-provoking article... made me feel better as an almost "nobody"!

Posted on Tuesday, November 22, 2016

Nice article. conclussion is fine.
Every individual must know that they are created not for themselves.But for others, then nobody feeling can vanish.

Albin Daisy
Posted on Thursday, November 17, 2016

Wonderful article to read upon! Life is meant to be happy with what we are and what we have. Self-worth doesn't really lie in publicity....but in doing ordinary things in extraordinary ways...but if I can understand my role as a human being with all my merits no matter what my backrounds are, I win over nobody. I am worth living the gift of life making constant improvements in the ups and downs of life. Selfknowledge however is the key to success. Congratulations sir for an inspiring article!

A. Joseph
Posted on Thursday, November 17, 2016

Thank you for your great article. Best wishes

Posted on Saturday, November 12, 2016

If you are looking at celebrities and feeling that you are nobody, it shows the inferiority complex in your life.
I am not a celebrity or not a known personality in the community, still I have the proud feeling when I am with my small friends and colleagues.
I never felt that I am nobody as I look at the life positively.

If you are having that feeling, it shows the negative feeling towards your life.

Posted on Saturday, November 12, 2016

I can feel a sense of inferiority complex in this Author.

sheeja menon
Posted on Saturday, November 12, 2016

The concluding lines you tell the vast majority of nobody's to clap their deserve a pat on your back for making us realise our self worth. If you consider yourself to be a nobody then I doubt "Do I exist??"ha ha...I agree with you materialistic people are less satisfied with their life bcoz they are engulfed in the vicious circle...Overall life satisfaction comes from within..based on individual personal values. All great leaders be it Buddha...Mahavir Jain or Gandhiji...they all had renounced the materialistic world of which we are after..I believe Happiness should peoples ultimate goal.

Posted on Friday, November 11, 2016

Nice article to read because it is about ordinary people like us. Even Noboday is also having great power of voting. All the great people's and Leaders are started their journey from nobody only.
Thanks to IIK and Dr Navnit

Subhash Bhola
Posted on Thursday, November 10, 2016

I feel 99% of population is 'Nobody'. Really a nice article to depict the feelings of a common ordinary person.

Posted on Wednesday, November 9, 2016

Dear Dr. Navnit,
Thanks for the article,I can completely relate to it and coincidently was thinking why i have'nt come across something that consoles or even celebrates a complete lack of talent, glamour and ordinary existence. After all the vast majority of people on earth fall into this category. Amusingly though you do not fall into this category, but thank you for making those of us that do, feel better about ourselves.

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