“You cannot change how people feel about you, so don’t try. Just live your life and be happy.”
-Anonymous
People comment all sorts of rubbish and you can never stop them doing that. They may say “you are ugly”, “good for nothing” etc. They may even go to an extent of writing bad stuff about you. Of course at least one time we have met bullies in our life. And what do we do just store it in our head without informing anyone and we just keep abusing ourselves with all those thoughts in our head. We just keep mum and hold back our tears thinking that people will make fun of you. Literally, you are stabbing infinite knives in your heart. If you know you have not done it, do not worry. And if someone questions you just reply calmly because if you respond in a rude tone it is kind of being rude.
We all have friends and we never know who among them is fake or real. If you have a friend who spread rumors about you just in front of you, just be happy that she/he is not backstabber as that person is straight forward. But you will never know people who is a backstabber until they back stab you. We also come across people who changes sides. We all may have at least one friend who changes their side when you are in difficulty and when you are in your good times, that person will always be in your side. You are living your life for you and not for the satisfaction of others. So if you come across a person who tries to pull your leg, just ignore because that person’s attitude will be like that. As the quote goes “If you do not change your attitude, your attitude will change you.”
Most of us hard work really a lot. And as students we do things for our class etc. But we all may have come across that particular time when we have done our best and we are criticized. And this point a number of questions maybe running through our mind, “Not even a thank you is heard from anyone?” “What do they think about me?” “I worked so hard and they just brush me off?” etc.
We get disappointed. But let me share a secret with you, if that person is criticizing you even though many people said it was really amazing, the criticizer just wants to pull your esteem down. Perhaps that person is jealous of you. I would say the best way to avoid disappointment is to just sacrifice the fruit of the action and never expect anything from anyone. And by the way, another way is to thank the criticizer in a polite manner and show them you are happy with their valuable suggestion.
We all love faking stuff because we want to change the society’s view of point about you. “She has that so I should get bigger than that” is our attitude nowadays. We think that faking stuff by covering up your true self to just flaunt it to others is good as you will be more social. But did you know that it basically harms you? According to me you may even end up having emotional problems.
“Be yourself because you are a jasmine who leaves a beautiful smell wherever it goes.”